As unfortunate as it is to admit, human nature has the tendency to categorize the people we meet. In most of our minds, everyone fits a certain bill, and sometimes it’s hard for us to shake the label stamped onto us by our peers. I am sure as you read this, you yourself could think of a time, either past or present, where you felt as if you were put into a bubble and all the facts and figures about you were “figured out” by people who really are on the outside. If you do feel this way, know that you are not alone and as a society we too feel astigmatism is placed on us for a variety of reasons.
We are all individually beautiful people with so much to give. All of our gifts, talents and stories are not always laid out on the table for the eyes of everyone else, so it’s very important to take that into consideration when you are meeting someone new to not familiarize them with their so-called “group”. One major point of focus for such a topic are athletes. Everyone goes to the games, cheers them on and sometimes only focuses on the magic on the court, field, etc. It can be because of this that people shy away from being who they truly desire to be, themselves. Their true colors are not necessarily revealed because they feel as if they would be judged by their friends, those around them, which leaves them with the daunting thought of not being accepted.
In reality though, we should all start thinking and believing that the only one who needs to accept us is ourselves and this way we subconsciously open our hearts up to the souls around us that feel exactly the same way. We all individually possess remarkable talents, qualities and something more than just what meets the eye. Many times a quarterback loves to draw, a lacrosse player is extremely talented at math, and a soccer player can do more than just “kick around the ball,” but make beautiful music. much like SJU’s Emily Cuccio.
It’s a tale as old as time to say that the football star is a talented cook, or the amazing musician can really dance too, but why does it have to be just a cliche? I encourage you to have an open-minded approach to not only the people you meet at SJU or at work, but everyone around you in this big and diverse city. Start there and it soon comes naturally. Drop the labels and stop categorizing the people around you for what they wear and what they like to do, find the real heart and soul of that individual and go from there. It will truly make all the difference in making a better you and in turn a better people.